Should Old Acquaintance Be Forgot?
Happy New Year!
Should Old Acquaintance Be Forgot? Ok, it’s a rhetorical question asking if old times should be forgotten and more generally a ‘call-to-remember’ long standing relationships. As a Head-Hunter, old acquaintances and long-standing relationships are the back bone to my USPs, and my life. But what of the past?
Christmas and New Year is a great time of reflection, looking back on the past year – The highs, the lows. The wins, the challenges. The lessons learned and how life has moved on & developed. But should any of it be forgotten?
Two great quotes:
“Live like you will die tomorrow; Learn like you will live forever” – Mahatma Gandhi
“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.” – Tony Robbins
Good or bad, I’m an optimist, an opportunity engineer and a proponent of positivity. Carpe Diem, #JDFI and grabbing (then maximising) opportunities. I largely believe that regret is a wasted emotion and I dislike negativity. “Whether you believe you can do something, or believe you can’t; You’re right” — another of Tony Robbins’ mantras from his book, Unlimited Power.
Releasing the past
Everything I know has come from what happened in my life, right up until this moment – and everything I will do in the future will be based on past experience and knowledge – so to forget it is irrational. But we need to take the knowledge, the lessons, the experiences, the results….. then positively release the past and turn to focussing on, planning for and expelling our energy on the future and what it can bring.
Every New Years Eve, we launch Chinese Lanterns (non-metal-wire/ECO variants!), to welcome in the New Year. It is always a highly symbolic activity. Having spent every festive season reflecting on the previous 12 months, and more importantly, in planning/assessing the various options that will start the new year – seeing a large paper balloon literally filled with hot air tugging at my hands, willing to be released before finally lifting into the calm night sky was highly emotive and immensely motivating.
As it soars above our neighbours houses, over Wilmslow town centre, then high above the Cheshire countryside disappearing onwards and upwards – it’s flame is visible for several minutes, highlighting it’s trajectory, taking the old year higher and higher, further and further away; leaving me with the knowledge gained from the year but filled with energy and excitement for the new year just starting.
Embracing the future
“If you can’t you must, if you must you can”
The few days of the new year have the potential to be the most powerful of the year. The fresh start, the ability to set (additional) objectives and the latent energy built up over the festive season, all provide the ability to springboard into the new year. But to coyne yet another Tony Robbins quote “The path to success is to take massive, determined action”. Having left the past, but retained the knowledge gained we can plot the course into the new year without that ballast that we carried at the end of the last.
As with every new year, the forthcoming year holds great challenge and great opportunity for me, my business and my family. A daughter about to sit Senior School entrance exams, a small business operating in a growth market, ambitious charity plans and a host of self-set personal challenges to tackle, it is an exciting place to be.
Auld Lang Syne finishes with “And there’s a hand my trusty friend! And give us a hand o’ thine!….”. It is a great reminder that people are everything. Yes, they are the basis of my profession, but more importantly they are the backbone to life. Family, friends, partners but also the many many people who made 2019 such a year through their support, advice, assistance, comfort and entertainment. I’m honoured to have you in my life and call you friends. Let’s kick arse in 2020.
Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human. – Tony Robbins